Have you ever been the person to arrange all the plans. Sometimes at a party it’s what is needed and if you have a natural talent for it. It’s awesome. I’m handicap and with that comes the facts that I have to be very reasonable with my expectations of myself. Today, I had a ton of crock pots I had to get up and down stairwells. Seriously I’m not very stable enough to carry heavy things up and down the stairs. I got my support team to help me with that. Communicating and helping with it. Though it’s hard that I I can’t pick up things easily that are hot my hands will not allow it. One is in a fist and involuntarily moves when it wants to do. Limited control. Here’s how I have learned to navigate this.
- Ask for help, use the words “can you help me with…?” Using the words help me has scientifically been proven for others to not just guess a need but seeing it verbalized. Help, most people are kind.
- Get over yourself!! Don’t be embarrassed that you have to have help. Embrace yourself where you are. Also understand that others have boundaries, lives of there own and need space. Don’t manipulate or guilt them into helping. There is always another way and other people to help. Don’t get offended just keep asking for help.
- Don’t macro-manage the help unless you are paying them. If it’s volunteer be kind and allow them to process your directions in there way. Unless it’s vital that you have it done in a certain way like baking.